If
you're having trouble in reaching climax, the best thing you can do is to start
by learning how to orgasm on your own through masturbation.
Once
you can climax easily on your own, you'll find it much easier to have really
exciting times with a partner.
But
even if you are the queen of masturbatory techniques, you might still find it
tough to climax during full sex, and this will almost certainly be because your
clitoris is not getting sufficient attention.
So
here are four sex positions that might help you to enjoy intercourse more and
to have fulfilling orgasms at the same time.
The
CAT position
(This
stands for coital adjusted technique, but don't let that rather technical and
boring title put you off!)
Basically
this is a face-to-face position, but the man 'rides much higher' than he would
in the missionary position so that his shoulders and head are about six inches
higher up the bed than normal.
What
this means is that his penis doesn't go all the way into the vagina. Instead,
the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations
in that all-important little organ.
The
other difference is that instead of taking his weight on his elbows, the man
should simply let his bulk slump onto his partner's upper chest.
Clearly
if he's a heavy bloke, this might be a problem!
You
can experiment with this position to get it absolutely right for you. Some
people do it with the man's legs outside the woman, but you can also try it
with his legs inside yours.
Many
couples find they can't thrust much in this position so they kind of 'rock'
together.
The
CAT certainly produces very different sensations from many other positions, so
it's worth a try, and it might just take you to the heights of ecstasy. I hope
it does.
The free-as-air position
The man lies down on his back. The woman faces the other way and sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself so that – with his penis inside her – her back is lying fully outstretched on the front of his body.
The
woman can feel genuinely weightless and free-as-air – which is quite a novel
sensation. Another bonus is that either partner can touch the clitoris easily.
So it's different and fun – and usually a great time is had by all.
The Pinner position
This
is a particularly good position if you feel nervous about touching your own
clitoris. You shouldn't be of course because it's yours – and you should feel
perfectly free to stimulate it yourself if you want to.
But
the thing about this position is that many men can't really tell if you are
touching it or not.
What
happens is this.
You
lie flat on your front and he lies, face down, on top of you. He then
penetrates you from behind.
But
because you are flat on the bed, you get very different sensations from any
rear-entry position where your bottom is up in the air. And you can slip your
hand in between the bed and your body and rub your own clitoris.
Plenty
of women who have never 'come' during intercourse have found that they climaxed
in the Pinner position.
The spoons position
Finally, 'the spoons'.
This
is the position where you lie on your side and your man lies curled up round
your bottom (like spoons in a drawer) and penetrates you from behind.
Lots
of women like this, though not all of them find it easy to orgasm on their
sides. But the great advantage here is that either partner can reach round and
rub the clitoris. Also, neither of you is having to take the weight of the
other.
Finally
There's
no right or wrong way to have sex with a partner. Every couple has to
experiment to find out what works for them.
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