Our guest writer, Dr Juliet Moses, a Sex and
Relationship expert, is back again to take you on a roller-coaster ride
about tips to build your orgasmic potentials.
Enjoy her.
It’s a happy fact that orgasms beget orgasms, meaning
that most women find that the more orgasms they have, the more easily
they orgasm in the future. Whether you’re looking for immediate
gratification or long-term payoff, learning more about your orgasmic
potentials will likely bring satisfaction on several levels. See also health benefits of Orgasm..
If
you’re trying to improve your sex life to meet your spouse'
expectations or because you’re feeling pressured, you won’t get far but
if your interest in having better orgasms comes from personal desire or
curiosity, then you’ll probably find these tips very helpful.
1. Start Breathing
Orgasm has
the potential to be a full body experience, and breath provides the
foundation of the experience. You can build on your orgasms by playing
with your breathing. First, sart by paying attention to your breath
during sex.
After this, experiment with the depth
and pacing of your breath. Try to intentionally change your breath as
you feel yourself approaching orgasm. Some people find that longer and
deeper breathing at the point of orgasm can expand their awareness of
the orgasm in other parts of their bodies.
If you find yourself losing steam, you can also try short quick breaths but be careful not to hyperventilate.
2. Don't forget to move
Moving
your body may be an obvious part of having sex, but when it comes to
orgasm, a lot of women tense up and hold themselves almost still, which
can get in the way of having an orgasm or having a bigger orgasm.
You
can change your orgasm by changing how much you move and what parts of
your body you move. Start by paying attention to how your body moves
during sex and at the point of orgasm.
If rocking
your hips doesn’t work for you, try shaking your arms or legs or just
letting your whole body writhe. If you are self-conscious about trying
this with your partner, start with the lights off, or under the covers.
Make a game of it and agree to have sex once while trying to move as
many different parts of your body as possible. As you do this, pay
attention to see if one or more movements feel particularly good.
3. Find your line
Our
obsession with orgasms often means we’re in such a hurry to get there
that we lose out on the build-up. Many women I have counseled report
that orgasms resulting from a slow build-up or arousal are more powerful
than quickie orgasms.
Start by figuring out where
your line is: that point at which you go over the top and have an
orgasm. Can you always tell when you’re about to have an orgasm? What
are the signs that you feel in your body that happen just before orgasm?
Your
next step is to prolong the period before orgasm. It’s much easier to
try this by yourself. Keep the stimulation going, but let yourself step
back from the line a bit. Then start again until you get close to the
line.
4. Exercise your pelvis
This
tip won’t work for everyone, but if you have movement in your pelvis
and don’t experience pelvic pain, you can try to build better orgasms by
strengthening the pelvic muscles called the pubococcygeus muscles.
Strengthening
exercises for the PC muscles are called kegel exercises, and doing
these increases blood flow to the pelvic area. For some women, stronger
PC muscles result in stronger orgasms. Simply doing the exercises also
increases awareness of your pelvis which itself can lead to more intense
orgasms.
5. Get wet
If you
really want an earth shaking orgasm, you must get very wet. If you get
some irritation by using some lubricant, you can use ordinary water.
Rushing
water from a shower head or from a bathtub faucet offers strong and
consistent stimulation that is very different from the stimulation of a
hand, or rubbing against fabric or furniture and can result in a very
different kind of orgasm. Try masturbating in the shower or bath.
Playing in the tub is also an easy way to alleviate concerns about sex
being too messy or wet, either alone or with a partner.
To be continued next week...
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